“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” – Mary Oliver
What is Best 3 Months?
Best 3 Months is both a practical planning tool and a transformative experience! In this course, we talk about our lives in 5 different areas: our physical bodies and home environment; our spiritual practices and beliefs; our emotional lives and relationships; the practical after death plans we’d like to see made; and our legacy — what it is we leave behind.
For each of these domains, course participants answer reflection questions, read brief articles, watch informative videos, and take part (as much as they wish) in conversations that explore these areas. People bring their curiosity, fears, past experiences, and future hopes to this exploration. Our discussions result in concrete action steps that will give you traction to move forward with what matters most to you!
You may find this experience helpful if you yourself are nearing the end of life, you have loved ones who are ill or elderly, you have things you “know you need to do” but aren’t getting around to completing, or you simply want to learn more about this universal experience. All courses are currently taught through Zoom and available to anyone, anywhere. All times listed are Mountain Standard Time.
On the one hand, Best 3 Months is a pragmatic planning guide for making choices about what to complete before you die, including such things as legal and medical paperwork that can set you up for the end you want and save your loved ones huge hassles and potential discord. But more than that, Best 3 Months offers a way to explore your true priorities at any stage of life and gives you the support to create genuine action steps that are meaningful to you and your loved ones, in all kinds of areas of your life. What is it that you’d really like to get done? See through? Make happen? And how will you actually do these things, instead of just thinking about them?
At the beginning of our course, we will name the date for your imagined “death,” three months from when we begin. Then for those seven weeks, in a small confidential group on Zoom, we will meet for 90 minutes each week and explore our lives through the lens of five different domains:
Each week, homework will include reflection questions to help you clarify your beliefs and desires for the domain that is the focus for that week. Additional resources such as articles, books, videos, and websites will also be shared, and our conversations during class will emerge from this wide base of materials.
Physical experiences - what matters to you now, and what do you think will matter to you at the end of your life?
Communication - what to discuss with parents/children/siblings/spouses/sweethearts?
What “loose ends” might bother you at the end, and is there anything to do (or not) about those now?
Extra-ordinary yet surprisingly common end-of-life experiences
Grief & loss as transformational experiences
Practical, legal & medical paperwork - what do you need to do, and why?
Funerals & services - what is common? what is possible?
What happens physically when we are dying & how might we approach it with more knowledge & equanimity?
What will you value most in these imagined final three months?
What are your priorities, wishes and dreams?
What practical action steps will you take towards your desired vision?
Developed by The Conscious Dying Institute, this course is taught by a variety of instructors who have all been trained by CDI. Best 3 Months has motivated people of all ages and at various stages of life and health to bring focus to the practical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of dying. Beginning these conversations with an intimate and confidential group can give you the start you need to further contemplate these issues, create your own vision, and open lines of communication as needed with friends and family.
Hear what Best 3 Months student's have to say about the course...
My number one reason for being interested in taking this class was my clarity on the enormous fears I have held inside about death and dying, and a desire to find a way to face and lessen it. This class has given me the chance to examine this overwhelming fear with a new vocabulary, a million resources to go to through time, and maybe a touch of humor.
"Best Life. Best Death" was fascinating and transformational for me. Diane is a skillful and loving facilitator who, with sensitivity and gentleness, creates a life-changing experience.
I will be ever grateful to you, Diane, for your very capable and compassionate handling of this course and material. By examining and sitting with the prospect of no longer being on this planet, I have finally found a way to step into my life with both feet. Thank you, with ALL my heart.
It is an honor to highly recommend The Best 3 Months course taught by Diane Hullet. As someone who has wanted to face the fear and lack of knowledge that I have around end-of-life issues, I found the information extremely helpful, the sensitivity of the instructor comforting and reassuring, and the cohort of other participants supportive and understanding. I came away after seven weeks with increased knowledge, a little less fear, and a desire to continue on the journey of learning and preparing. I would recommend the course to anyone who is seeking to break down the cultural barriers that we have erected to the end-of-life journey.
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