End of Life Resources

“The remedy for dirt is soap and water. The remedy for dying is living.” – Chinese proverb

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When Someone Dies… What Do I Need to Know? is a compassionate, practical end-of-life guide created by Best Life Best Death to help you navigate the many steps that follow the loss of a loved one. This free ebook walks you through the legal, administrative, and personal “to-dos” — from securing vital documents and handling funeral arrangements to wrapping up financial and digital details — offering clear checklists and thoughtful guidance so you can focus on what matters most during a difficult time. It’s intended as a supportive resource for anyone facing or preparing for loss. Click here to download the ebook.

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6 Ways to LET GO of Sentimental Items that Feel Oh-So-IMPORTANT

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5 Reasons to Consider MUSIC as a Part of the End of Life

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4 Questions and Answers about NOR aka Human Composting

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5 Myths about Pain and Pain Management at the End of Life

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5 Ways to Support Someone who is Grieving

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6 Reasons to Have a Conversation about Mortality​

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Numerous books, articles, websites, videos, and other online resources are available to offer guidance and answer questions, on everything from writing your own obituary to the green burial movement to alternative pain management. Read on for more of my favorite books and websites, plus other sources of information and inspiration.

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Websites

TheHospiceHeart.net

My colleague and hospice nurse Gabby Jimenez has a fantastic compilation of end of life resources if you go to her website. I could not have done it better myself! I love her selection of materials and resources.

DeathDoulas.com

My colleague and teacher Trish Rux and her companions at Death Doulas have compiled an amazing list of resources! Organized in categories, such as Advanced Planning, Caregiver Resources, Movies, Podcasts, and Books – including children’s books – this is a fantastic list of the best that is out there.

TheConversationProject.org

The Conversation Project® is a fantastic website with a goal that is both simple and transformative: to help everyone talk about their wishes for care through the end of life, so those wishes can be understood and respected. Terrific materials you can put to use immediately.

WhenYouDie.org

This organization has created three stunning documentaries about the end of life. I cannot recommend these highly enough. They will change the way you see death.

Music

In August 2022 on the Best Life Best Death podcast, I spoke with Jan Booth, end-of-life nurse, coach, educator and musician. As a member of Threshold Choir thresholdchoir.org, she and others bring “kindness made audible” to the bedside of people at the end of life.

Jan shared the following resources:

  • Rise Up Singing songbook – folk songs, spirituals, kids songs, etc. Rise Up Singing | Rise Up and Sing
  • Lisa Littlebird, song leader teacher and community singing advocate: Songs – The Bird Sings
  • Think of songs you know or have heard that would be a good match for singing for people in the last part of their lives…or to sing to yourself before going to be with someone who is dying. Here are a few ideas:
  • Spotify playlist called Threshold Choir (These are some Threshold songs or similar vibe that have been recorded and available to the public…otherwise, Threshold songs are most often only available for Threshold singers.). Some easier ones to learn:
      • May Only Love Surround You
      • I’ll Walk With You
      • Standing Stone
      • Let Peace Come
      • Calming, Resting, Breathing
  • Take a simple phrase and put a simple melody to it, as in this song by Heather Houston: You Are So Loved — Heather Houston – Heather Houston Music
  • Consider simple words that reflect love, kindness, peace, community, caring, simple melodies that are easy to sing and learn, and singing in a quiet voice that is almost lullaby-like.

End of Life Books

Being Mortal 

by Atul Gawande

An excellent and beautifully written overview of what has happened to get us where we are as a society in relationship to death, and possible antidotes to a medicalized approach to the end of life. Excellent introduction to the Big Picture! “Riveting, honest, and humane, Being Mortal shows how the ultimate goal is not a good death but a good life―all the way to the very end.”

The Art of Dying Well 

by Katy Butler

This book picks up where Being Mortal leaves off, offering a pragmatic guide with concrete steps to make the end of life a more humane and compassionate experience. Heart-felt, with specific questions asked and advice given for your (or a loved one’s) stage of aging. Excellent read – I think this should be required reading for anyone over 50. “A common sense path to define what a ‘good’ death looks like” (USA TODAY), The Art of Dying Well is about living as well as possible for as long as possible and adapting successfully to change.”

The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully 

by Frank Ostaseski

This beautiful rumination on life, death, and the choices we make as we live is a deep summary on what is possible when we lean into our experience. The Five Invitations Ostaseski puts forth are: Don’t Wait; Welcome Everything, Push Away Nothing; Bring Your Whole Self to the Experience; Find a Place of Rest in the Middle of Things; and Cultivate Don’t Know Mind. “These Five Invitations can be understood as best practices for anyone coping with loss or navigating any sort of transition or crisis; they guide us toward appreciating life’s preciousness.” Gorgeous, spiritual-minded read.

Advice for Future Corpses (And Those Who Love Them) 

by Sallie Tisdale

At times wry, always deeply compassionate, “This is a book about preparing for your own death and for the deaths of people close to you.” The author lays out a road map with incredible anecdotes and tidbits offered along the way. Succinct, practical, beautiful, best title ever.

Die Wise 

by Stephen Jenkinson

This book is extraordinary, but not for the faint of heart! I found that I had to just “drink it in” with huge gulps and long sessions of reading — it was too dense for a light read. That being said, it is one of the most powerful manifestations of truth around the power of our deaths and our grieving of everything that I have read. I loved it, and devoured every page in gulps — but if you don’t like a lyrical, intense read, it might feel like too much to bite off and chew. Stephen is also featured in a remarkable documentary film called “Griefwalker,” and I will offer a study group around this book in Fall 2021.

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Spirit Vessel

Spirit Vessel offers mindfully handcrafted Ceramic Urns and personalized Celebration Of Life Ceremonies to assist in grieving, honoring, and celebrating you or your loved one.

The NokBox

The Nokbox is a complete system that helps you organize all of your accounts, possessions, social media presence, communities, kids, pets, personal history, and estate plans (even if you don’t have estate plans yet!).  The Nokbox covers every aspect of your life (even down to the organization of your keys) and also helps your NOK manage your estate when you are gone.

Out of the Box End of Life Planning

Create your own unique Exit File™ as a map to record and communicate your wishes, to aid and guide your family in the time of a medical crisis or your death. 

“When death comes to find you, may it find you alive.”
– African proverb

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